Little Miss Perfect.

For someone who isn't that much younger than me you sure do have a lot of opinions. Tell me, where do they even come from? What life experiences have you had that make it ok for you to judge how others choose to live their life?  Your lifestyle is clearly the best.

Here's an idea... mind your damn business. You aren't cute, funny, or witty when you bash on other people. You come from a small town and only recently started to experience being on your own. What grounds do you really have to speak? Actually, you aren't even really on your own. Little white girl from New England has her parents help to pay for her living expenses in the "big city" along with her tuition to a prestigious college.  Please do go on about how other people should act. You really must understand life.

Kids like you are disappointing. I don't understand how ones ego can be so inflated. You live inside a box and have a closed mind. You have no consideration for others and know nothing of the real world. Stop looking down at others for their differences and start learning from them. 

Instead of complaining and making sarcastic jokes about people at their expense why don't you try being a good person instead.

The Hot Shot Paranormal Investigator

I have been doing my own paranormal investigations for 9 years now. Not only do I have experience from just the act of investigating paranormal claims at residencies and going around the U.S. investigating buildings and land that are said to be haunted. But I have done numerous studies, have written scholarly articles involving demonic possession, dissociative disorder, and abnormal psychology (one particular paper was also an honors paper which I received an A on). I have studied religions both on my own time and in college. I am a bit of a science geek who is obsessed with the universe and I use science in favor of the possibility of spirits and after life. I read as many scientific articles, books, and blogs as possible. Not only that, but I have been collecting investigation equipment since I was 15, and I am tech savvy.

I am a sane, level headed, agnostic, science minded, skeptic, who has also had her own paranormal experiences since the age of 4.

I am a well rounded, intelligent woman who honestly knows her stuff. I am also very capable of being safe and doing things properly.

With that said, I find something very wrong with the way you, who may be better known in the paranormal world than I, talked down to me. On what grounds do you think you are better than me or anyone else who is interested in conducting their own investigations?

I can understand wanting to look out for new comers and maybe wanting to teach them proper investigation etiquette and ways to protect themselves. That is a wonderful way to pass down your knowledge and be one as a community. It is an entirely different story when an investigator is approached by another and is pretty much "told off" for no other reason I can think of but arrogance.

We are equal. Whether you are a newbie or an experienced investigator, we are the same. There is no hierarchy. We are all interested in finding answers and proof of the unexplainable. We should be embracing one another and supporting each other as we build our own name or presence in the field of paranormal investigation. No matter what route you take in the field, whether you form a paranormal group and take cases, choose to focus your research on a more personal basis, do radio shows, or if you don't go public at all, no branch of investigating is better than the other. Being known in your community because you take cases doesn't make you better or more qualified than the person who does things more privately.

I would love to see more people in the community be more open minded and open armed to those who take their own path. I would also love to see everyone working together. TOGETHER. I don't like when I see one investigator suddenly interested in another investigators case because they think the person is doing it wrong and they could do it better. Why don't you get off your high horse and ask to work WITH the person.  Exchange information, techniques, and get to the bottom of the issue. You would be surprised how much more you can accomplish as a team.

Let's get things straight.  You came to ME after you saw a post of mine. You seemed interested in helping me figure something out. I thought you were interested in working WITH me... but instead you berated me like I was a clueless little girl. I am not new, thank you. I do not appreciate your disregard to my background specially after I respectfully told you my story and shared with you my experience and opinions.  My inquisitiveness toward your "ways" and my intellectual debates threaten you.  You made this very clear. Stop defending your poorly thought out beliefs. It is so clear you "go by the book"... you follow what you are told without finding the truth out for yourself. What may have happened to you when you first started out isn't exactly what will happen to others. You look down on those who choose not to follow everything they read or hear without first testing it themselves.

Find a tactful way to share your experiences in a way to educate someone you may have concern for instead of making childish threats and assumptions.

Live and let live. 

And mind your damn business. 

The Comedian

I have tactfully and respectfully confronted you on numerous occasions concerning our past.  I have given you every chance to be upfront and honest with me.  You claim nothing is different between us, yet your actions speak much louder than your words.

I see you move from one poor victim to the next as you use them for "stability" while trying to advance your career. You take from every person without a care.  You take from us as though the world owes it to you. I have not once seen an ounce of gratitude from you. We have given you shelter, food, transportation, and a way of income. You appear genuine at the start. We think "here is a poor nice guy who has just hit some bad times. He deserves a break". Only to end up being used by you in the end.

Even after the first time went bad, being the caring person I am, reached out to you once again. I really wanted you to get on your feet and be successful. But the moment we both had to face a serious struggle, you became very resentful that I was able to find a solution and you didn't.  I had already put my neck on the line for you, I couldn't risk doing it again and having the both of us be screwed.  I still did everything in my power to help you after the fact.

I cannot list the other numerous things you have done that are shitty (which I put up with because it was the only way to cooperate at the time) because such details would give away your identity. 

But even after all of that, every time you put yourself in another bad situation that you had to get out of, I still tried coming to you.  I gave you REAL advice. I had discovered a lot through living it, and I wanted you to share in the same discoveries in the hopes you could better your life.  Sadly, to this day, you repeat the same cycle.

You refuse to work because you can't stand "the man", which puts you in a situation of not having a stable place to live, or a stable way to support your life. Instead, you jump from one couch to the next.  You have not learned a single lesson. You have had so many hand outs, and yet you take them all for granted. You stop talking to most of the people who have helped you because you burned your bridge. You place the blame on someone else then stop talking to them. In my eyes, you are cowardly hiding from the truth because you are too ashamed to admit to it.

Even now as my "friend" you delete any of my posts from your profiles, you ignore any attempt of mine to converse, you never support me and my creative endeavours even though I share your work with everyone so I can support you,  and you only contact me when you need something.

You need to grow up. You need to realize that the odds of being a schmuck who gets discovered then turns into a super star are slim to none. This doesn't mean I don't think you should pursue your dreams.  I just think you need man up, take ownership of your mistakes, try to rebuild the bridges you have burned, and find a way to support yourself WHILE you also pursue your dreams.  Stop taking advantage of people. Get a job. Put in the hard work to get to where you want to be.

Oh, and stop being fake.

Hand Over My Mouth

Hand over my mouth; I'm earning the right to my silence.
In quiet, discerning between ego and timing.
Good judgment is once again proving to me
that it's still worth it's weight in gold.

A New Beginning

I have created this blog as a way to address people in my life who deserve to be told off...minus the drama that would come along with the actual confrontation.  In real life I am a very brutally honest person who doesn't hold back.  But, as I have learned over the years, there are some people/personalities who are not worth my time. 

If you find there is someone in your life or use to be in your life and you are left with all the things you wish you could say, write me! I will anonymously post for you as well. 

I believe in being true to yourself and those around you.  I also believe that in some situations, when there is no getting through to someone, it is best to take the high road.  And this blog is my way of taking the high road.

Enjoy!